“The human mind is programmed for survival, not for truth.” – John Gray
The good news is we’re a resilient species. The bad news is our neurotic brains can keep us from fully living life.
Our brains do a pretty good job of perceiving threats and plotting a way to avoid danger. This comes in very handy when you are walking towards a busy city road with lots of cars and buses zipping around. Read more
“Perfection is like chasing the horizon. Keep moving.” – Neil Gaiman
Is there anything more futile than perfectionism? Being perfect is simply not attainable. We all know this. The rational part of our brain agrees that we cannot be perfect. But yet something remains deep inside ourselves that drive us to perfectionism. If we can be perfect than we can also achieve acceptance, accomplishment, assurance. Read more
“Worry does not empty tomorrow of its sorrow, it empties today of its strength.” – Corrie ten Boom
The story we tell ourselves goes something like this:
Sure, I don’t like to worry, but if I do worry, at least I won’t be taken by surprise when the hardship happens. And if I’m not taken by surprise, then I may be able to cope with hardship. And maybe I may even be able to find a way to lessen the hardship. Or find a way to avoid the hardship altogether. So yes, worrying does me some good.
But that’s an inaccurate story. And if you were able to look back at a record of all the times your worries amounted to nothing, you would know without a shadow of a doubt that worrying does not serve the purpose we like to believe it does. More often than not, we are worrying to not be caught by surprise or solve hardships that never materialize. Read more
“I do not think much of a man who is not wiser today than he was yesterday.” – Abraham Lincoln
We all make mistakes. We all fall down. Fail. Miss the mark. That’s an unavoidable part of life.
You can choose to believe that you are defined by these moments. Or, you can choose to believe you are defined by how you respond to these moments.
“The use of a life is to spend it for something that outlasts it.” – William James
How to develop a legacy:
Spend your time and energy and resources on that which is meaningful.
Develop relationships.
Be vulnerable.
Create boldly.
Invest in others.
Always be learning.
Always be sharing.
Balance conviction and compassion.
Find ways to be kind to yourself and others.
“The aim of argument should not be victory, but progress.” – Philosopher Karl Popper
Victory is great in games. When you sit down to play a board game you play to win. When the Giants and the Dodgers square off against one another on the baseball field they both employ a strategy and tactics to ultimately defeat their opponent. The game will end with one team being the victor and the other team will be the loser. The possibility of losing comes with the price of admission to play the game. It is an accepted reality.
However, arguing is not a game. The same rules do not apply. Particularly in the context of a relationship or a marriage. Do you want to employ strategy and tactics to defeat your spouse or partner? At what personal and relational cost do you pay to “win” the argument? Is “winning the argument” even possible? Read more
“Sometimes it is necessary to reteach a thing its loveliness.” Poet, Galway Kinnell
We are all born with a value that is priceless. That value does not change over time. Only the perception of that value does.
Life has a way of making us think that our value is tarnished. Maybe, if we are honest with ourselves, we also fall into the trap of devaluing others. Read more
“If they can make penicillin out of moldy bread, they can sure make something out of you.” Muhammad Ali
Potential is a fascinating thing. By its very nature, it includes an element of disguise. A skill or a talent or a strength is hidden from us, lying dormant, waiting to be released. Oftentimes that skill is surprising. And just as often it can come from an equally surprising place of origin. Read more
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Husband. Father. Therapist. Speaker. Leader. David has a passion to help people reach their fullest potential in life, relationships, and business. Recognized as a trusted Therapist by Doctors, Pastors, and Educators. David has over 10 years of experience providing relational counseling, launching therapeutic programs, and leading seminars.
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