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Global Leadership Summit – 2023 – Day 2

As I mentioned in my previous post, the Global Leadership Summit is a two day event hosted outside of Chicago. It brings together people from all over the world to learn from inspiring teachers, authors, pastors, and leaders from a variety of industries. Check out their content and consider attending in 2024 for the 30th GLS. I already have my ticket!

Here is a quick breakdown of the speakers from Day 2 and just a few of the main takeaways from each speaker.

JAMES CLEAR
Habits are the compound interest of self improvement. As such, good habits mean that time is our ally. Bad habits mean that time is our enemy. Excellence is not about radical change but about accruing small incremental steps. The biggest challenge people face is not personal defects but with the system we operate in. You don’t rise to the level of goals, you fall to the level of your system.
Form good habits by focusing on the four stages of habit formation. 1. Cue – Trigger that tells your brain to initiate a habit. 2. Craving – Prediction that compels you to act. 3. Response – The actual habit you perform. 4. Reward 0 The result that satisfies your craving.
Learn to manipulate these stages to your benefit in order to develop healthy habits, and, most importantly, develop an identity of being the better you that you want to be.

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Confidence Goals Self-improvement By Dave Barry, MFT

Global Leadership Summit – 2023 – Day 1

Am I a leader? If so, what and who am I leading? And how good of a job am I doing at leading? If I’m honest, these are the questions that I have wrestled with at times over the past three years. They are not uncommon questions. In fact, they are important questions for all of us to consider.

Two days in Chicago helped me to gain clarity on answering these questions. Yes (resoundingly yes!), I am a leader. We all lead in some shape and capacity. We all have influence (in our homes, our relationships, our work, our community). You do not need a fancy title to grant you permission to lead. You are a leader. And as is the motto of this conference every year: Everyone wins when a leader gets better.

The Global Leadership Summit (GLS) is a two day event hosted outside of Chicago each year in early August. My wife and I have been attending since 2011. We have always attended through one of the hundreds of satellite locations that simulcast the event. However, this year we made the commitment to attend in person. It is two days of world class speakers presenting actionable content on how to grow your capacity as a leader. I’ve said it for years and it always proves to be true. It is one of the highlights of our year personally, professionally, spiritually, and relationally.

Here is a quick breakdown of the speakers and just a few of the main takeaways from each speaker.

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Goals Self-improvement By Dave Barry, MFT

Non-Zero Day

Zero Days.

We’ve all had them.

And if you’ve had enough Zero Days you know that they can lead to despair.

The solution is not the Hero Day.

The solution is the Non-Zero Day.

Dare to dream small.

Leadership By Dave Barry, MFT

Global Leadership Summit – 2019 – Day 2

Walking into the second day of the 2019 Global Leadership Summit I commented to my wife that this was our 18th day at the GLS since we started attending in 2011. Each day is jam-packed with actionable content that challenges me to be better. Here are some of the main points from the presenters from Day 2. 

Chris Voss: You are in negotiations every day of your life. Anytime you say or think the words “I want” or “I need” you are in a negotiation. To be a successful negotiator always look to build trust. Listen to the other person, mirror back to them what they are saying. Connection is the key. Get the ‘No.’ A person saying ‘no’ feels comfortable and able to maintain a sense of control. Saying ‘no’ allows a person to define what they are wanting and allows for you both to find mutual ground. Asking how is far better than asking why. ‘How’ makes the other person think about the process. And most importantly, be likable. You will be 6x more likely to reach an agreement if you are seen as likable. 

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Leadership By Dave Barry, MFT

Global Leadership Summit – 2019 – Day 1

The Global Leadership Summit has been an annual event on my calendar since 2011. This is the 25th year of the Summit. Each year it is a high quality, fully engaging, enriching and challenging event. It is two days of actionable content from world-class leaders from all walks of life. Here is a rundown of Day 1 of the 2019 GLS.

Craig Groeschel: Leaders are constantly doing a cost-benefit analysis. We assume that investing more brings a better return. However, over time more does not always mean better. Groeschel offers two strategies to be more productive. Fist, GETMO (Good Enough To Move On). Look for the greatest level of return based on time, money, and resources available. The idea of “perfect” can motivate us, but it can limit our ability to execute. Second, BTC (Bend The Curve). Look for ways that will exponentially raise quality while not adding cost. To do this, start by thinking inside the box. Lean into the constraints you have. They may lead you to be creative in finding a solution.  Read more

Confidence Depression Goals Self-improvement Stress By Dave Barry, MFT

The Orbital Perspective

50 years ago we landed on the moon. It was an extraordinary accomplishment on many levels in achieving the goal set by President Kenedy “of landing a man on the Moon and returning him safely to the Earth.“

Civic pride and scientific advancements were not the only outcomes of man’s exploration into space. One unexpected, but albeit, significant discovery was the change in perspective that comes from looking back and seeing planet Earth from space. This experience was felt first hand by the astronauts themselves and forever changed their minds. But anyone of us who looks at the photographs from space can’t help but be touched by a sense of awe as we see our home in all its glory, fragility, and wonder.  Read more

Anxiety Goals Self-improvement Wit & Wisdom By Dave Barry, MFT

Wit & Wisdom – John Gray

“The human mind is programmed for survival, not for truth.” – John Gray

The good news is we’re a resilient species. The bad news is our neurotic brains can keep us from fully living life.

Our brains do a pretty good job of perceiving threats and plotting a way to avoid danger. This comes in very handy when you are walking towards a busy city road with lots of cars and buses zipping around. Read more

Goals Self-improvement Stress By Dave Barry, MFT

Appetite for Change

Appetites can be fickle.

Consider the Wikipedia description of appetite: “Appetite is the desire to eat food, sometimes due to hunger. Appealing foods can stimulate appetite even when hunger is absent, although appetite can be greatly reduced by satiety.”

So appetites are an innate sensation that serves the greater good to keep us fed and alive.

Unless it becomes easily swayed by that sugary donut that we don’t need. But oh, does it look tasty!

Our desires for change in other areas of life are a lot like our appetites. Read more

Goals Self-improvement By Dave Barry, MFT

The First Day

First days get a lot of attention. New Years is a time for setting resolutions, fresh beginnings and orienting yourself to achieve goals. The first day of school is commonly marked by cute pictures of kids with their new backpacks on and their back to school clothes shining in the early morning light. Faces smiling expectantly of what is to come. Read more

Anxiety Depression By Dave Barry, MFT

The Defiant Nevertheless

The residents of Whoville woke Christmas morning to find that their town had been ransacked the night before. The scheming Grinch was bent on robbing them of their joy of Christmas, and he attempted to do so by stealing all of the Christmas decorations and gifts from the entire town. But as dawn broke over Whoville the Grinch was shocked to hear the residents in the town below still singing joyfully. Welcome Christmas. Christmas Day…Welcome Christmas Bring your cheer! Read more

Global Leadership Summit – 2023 – Day 2

As I mentioned in my previous post, the Global Leadership Summit is a two day event hosted outside of Chicago. It brings …

Global Leadership Summit – 2023 – Day 1

Am I a leader? If so, what and who am I leading? And how good of a job am I doing at leading? If I’m honest, these are …

Non-Zero Day

Zero Days. We’ve all had them. And if you’ve had enough Zero Days you know that they can lead to despair. The …